A brand new day, with no mistakes…YET!

So we’ve done it. My wonderful mother and I have had a rather large blow out. Neither of us are particularly pleased with the other. She’s being rather cold with me. I’ve pretty much cut her out until I cool off (and by cut her out I mean I speak civilly to her when any conversation is required but otherwise the conversation is non-existent). We are two strong-willed women who have butt heads in a large way.

Now, my mother and I are close. We always have been (in fact I’m sure, even though she would never actually SAY it,  I’m the favourite daughter…lol)  Despite regular minor spats or disagreements that all mother/daughters have, we have always managed to work through any slights and have always been there for each other. We always will be I’m sure…but this time was just too much. We both have our reasons, neither of us will back down, we both think we are right (and we probably are BOTH right) but are unwilling to justify the other enough to come to a compromise.

Whatever in the world could have made us come to such a blow out? Well, it’s a combination I think. We’ve both had enough. I’ve had enough meddling/pestering/picking/badgering/stepping-on-my-toes with my son/lack of personal privacy/her-mood-swings brought on by menopause. She’s apparently had enough picking/moodiness/feeling-ganged-up-on by me and my sisters (which I somehow get to deal with and not them)/lack of appreciation/feeling she must do everything herself.

According to her I should be more sympathetic to her moods seeing as she is going through menopause, however I feel that she needs to stop being so self absorbed and do something about her menopause seeing as her mood swings are affecting EVERYONE around her. This is an ongoing battle. Everyone else is to tip-toe and walk on egg shells because of 1 woman…I don’t think so! For the first 4 years we did but come on already! How much longer!! Call me heartless if you will but let’s be real here. Furthermore, she doesn’t do everything herself….but she LOVES telling everyone else what they should be doing and how it should be done, so maybe she does feel that she’s doing it all…she’s certainly instructing everyone on it!

According to me, she should butt out and stop badgering me about things I choose not to share. Am I not allowed a personal life and personal choices/opinions that may not be what she feels they ‘should’ be? Is there some law stating that I should not have any privacy and she must be ‘in’ on everything. Also according to me…stop being mother to my kid! She is the GRANDMOTHER and I am the mother. She always jumps in and has something to say before I even get a chance sometimes….what’s the point. Sometimes I totally feel I should just hand him over and say ‘here ya go, apparently you think he’s yours and I must be doing a really crappy job!’

Ok, so this may or may not seem like a big deal, and there is more to I, but this is the ‘gist’ of it. I think we both let things grow and grow until it’s too much and I’m sure that all will be well in the end (it always is and no this is not the first time) but man….has she ever made me angry this time! Sadly I’m just like her…stubborn to the core. Also sadly, out of respect, I will probably be the one to relent a little first. Grrrrrrrrrrr…….

………………………..thanks for the vent……………